Why crying at work isnt necessarily always the worst thing you can do

Why crying at work isnt necessarily always the worst thing you can doWhy crying at work isnt necessarily always the worst thing you can doI have a thing called pseudobulbar affect, which is a long-dense way of saying 8/10 first dates end with me crying into a bowl of tapas.PBA is a condition usually brought on by other neurological disorders that is defined by habitual episodes of inappropriate displays of emotion, i.e crying at the end of Bad Boyz II and laughing when your Aunt Cathy dies (those extremely specific examples are not specific to me.)Because behauptung bouts are so sudden, sufferers of this condition or similar manic-depressive ones, have at some point had to explain there way out of a cry session at work. For the longest time my go to was Ah, man, I still cant believe Crash won Best Picture. (Green Book has provided my alibi with a much needed refurbishing).Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfacti on, Neuroscience, and moreAnother popularly adopted maneuver is to position yourself near a bathroom for easy meltdown access- Ah man Indian food. Also, I still cant believe Crash won Best Picture. Both great ways to avoid exposing yourself as an embarrassing-wet weirdo, but the truth of the matter is, work culture has matured immensely in regards to mental health awareness, and theres nothing wrong with occasional public lapses in sanity-within reason.If you are judged harshly for crying when its entirely warranted, it might be a sign of a toxic work culture, explains S. Chris Edmonds, a human resources expert and founder of The Purposeful Culture Group.Having a work culture that appreciates the stresses that leaders and members are going through is an indication of a healthy environment. A modest degree of self-awareness must attend all of this stuff of course in order to effectively promote a meet-me-in-the-middle rapport. If youre a professional with a history of mental health s truggles, its your responsibility to seek treatment of some kind before injecting yourself into a work ecosystem, the same way its encouraged of a company to try and collaborate with the members of their team, and take their medical conditions seriously, whether said conditions are somatic or mental.Dont cry because its over, cry because it happenedUnfortunately, there are preconceived disgraces that preclude everyone from being as honest as they should or could be when it comes to quality tear-time. All of the non-spoken dos and donts of public decorum belong to a term anthropology calls the display rules a rigid rubric that is meant to distinguish how humans, the notoriously incalculable collection of nerves and meat responsible for the Crusades, Global Warming, and giving the movie Crash Best Picture, should socialize and express themselves amongst others.The problem with display rules is that they are willfully indifferent to the mercurial temptations of cohabitation. There aren t any inappropriate places or times to start bawling, there are only inappropriate ways to respond. Incidentally, the other seemingly impenetrable roadblock standing in between us and professional egalitarianism is a national preference for an ala carte adherence to biology. This has become popular with the modern wannabe provocateur. In the same breath theyll posit why minorities are genetically unfit to do what have you, or why women shouldnt lead a business because of science and then unironically submit a sponsor break for Rogain or Testosterad or whatever.A recent survey revealed that 41% of women have cried at work at least once during their careers compared to the 9% of men that admitted to doing so. Figures like these establish an erroneously shameful minority. While its true that biologically speaking women have six times the amount of prolactin than men do, nothing productive comes out of inaugurating a correlation between this useless evolutionary hold-over, and what gend er ought to be weeping the most about what and when. Applying archaic knuckle-dragging functions of biology to a society that has successfully surpassed them places unfair expectations on the non-troglodytes that inhabit it. Author and journalist Anne Kreamer writes,In spite of the cathartic physiological benefits, women who cry at work feel rotten afterward, as if theyve failed a feminism test.Women feel worse after crying at work, while men feel better.More risible than the who, is the when. Sheryl Sandberg, author and Facebooks Chief Operating Officer, has lobbed censure at the stigma surrounding crying at work on several occasions. In a broader sense, Sandberg believes socio-rule books of the like are poorly cloaked efforts to reinforce the workforce food chain. More specifically, shes of the opinion that its unreasonable to compartmentalize human emotion by right of whos in attendance.I dont really believe that we are one type of person, Monday through Friday, 9-to-5, and then a different type of person in the nights and weekends. I think we are, all of us, emotional beings and its okay for us to share that emotion at work, Sandberg told Indias Mint newspaper in a recent interviewOn the topic of the very successful executive, Mrs. Sanberg, the contrary view is at its most willed. In fact, whilst covering Sandbergs statements admonishing the notion of where crying does or doesnt belong, writer Suzanne Lucas raised some forceful considerations.Sandberg wields a certain liberty of vulnerability that many of us simply do not. Exhibiting weakness is not damaging when youve already established yourself as a lion. The road to achieving that moniker provides a much smaller margin for these kinds of displays. Lucas also punctuated her coverage of Sandbergs counterfeit words of solidarity by cautioning the average worker against conflating vulnerability with weakness, explaining sharply,I want to make it clear that, in most situations, crying at work isnt appropria te.When your boss criticizes your work, dont cry. When your co-worker gets the big project you wanted and think youve earned, dont cry. Lucas continues, Crying in these situations doesnt make people feel compassion towards you. It makes them doubt you have what it takes to succeed.Very valid points. A reasoned mind that has read Lucas essay in its entirety would have to assume the writer would excuse instances of mental instability either chronic or circumstantial in her estimation, but even still, speaking strictly from a tactical viewpoint, crying at work yields very little positive effects, even if the consequences are rarely detrimental. That doesnt mean one should make an effort to suppress the need. I guess its up to us sheep to determine when the need is a need and not merely an itch.